Tuesday 11 June 2024

For the mothers in the rubble (May 2024)

"Christ in the rubble" - Kelly Latimore Icons

 

 My three-year-old cradles a hawkmoth in her hands.

“I didn’t hurt it Mummy.”

(The thought had crossed my mind, I admit –

It wouldn’t be the first time something

Had perished at the hands of an overzealous handler).

This time, she's scooped it off the bathroom floor where it was lying

Waiting for that second metamorphosis.

 

It trembles faintly: still alive, but barely.

Beautiful. Fragile.

Strangely safe in this wild child's hold.

"I'll put it outside, mummy," she says.

“We mustn't hurt God's creatures."

 

We mustn't hurt God's creatures.

We mustn't take other people's things.

We must share what we have with those who have not.

We must be kind and gentle and good.

 

What does the mother say to her children,

As she presses them to her body

Wanting to shield them

From the hate and the famine and the fire

falling all over the place they said was 'safe'?

 

And what says the mother, not far away,

who is weeping for her stolen child?

Her child ripped from her:

a sick form of retribution for past and present wrongs?

 


An eye for eye

A child for a child

Until there are no children left.

 

The mothers weep.

And weep and weep.

There is no end to the weeping.

And still the fire falls and

We are all complicit.

 

The moth is laid gently under the flowers outside.

My girl turns and smiles at me,

Sun catching her wild hair.

 

For a second, I see this face of hers

in a burning pile of rubble

and I want to scream.

 

"We mustn't hurt God's creatures, mama."

 

Saturday 2 December 2023

Breathe

I hold you close
And for a minute
I can't hear the hum pum puff
Of your oxygen concentrator
And I can't see the plastic tubes
Across your face and feeding your tiny nostrils
With life giving air.

Instead, I marvel at your perfect lashes
Lying on your chubby cheeks
And let you tangle your sweet hands in my hair.
I smell your delicious, clean baby smell and
Listen to you as you
Breathe.

Breathe in and out
And I push away again those dark thoughts rising.

I didn't realise I was such a control freak
Until becoming a mother
Showed me just how little control I have

Over sleep, 
Over time,
Over breath.

Just breathe.
Take a deep breath
And let it go

Surrendering to
The daily bread provided
For our sustenance
Our strength,
Our hope,

Our breath.

I hold you close
And we breathe together.

Sunday 8 May 2022

 God Mother

 She breathes

And life is.


The mother knows her own:

The one she grew in her own body;

The image of herself.

She will defend her

Protect her

Fight for her

Give her life up for her –

Even as the child

Flees the embrace

In pursuit of herself.

 

Tender,

She rejoices in her daughter’s joy

And weeps with her in her failure:

Holding the brokenness,

Like the newborn, close.

She pours out herself,

Again and again

Take from me, child,

I am enough for you.

 

Her arms

Are expansive, welcoming,

Comforting, safe.

Her hands

Hold and steady,

Guide and correct.

Her back -

Testament to the faithful

Bearing and caring of the years –

Is strong and straight.

 

Her kiss brings healing –

To the hurts seen and unseen,

And her song echoes through the night,

Singing over her beloved:

Do not be afraid, child,

I am with you.

 

Hers is the voice that calms the storm

And hers are the ears quick to hear,

Her feet quick to run to the

Child’s cry.

Her heartbeat is the rhythm

The child remembers from the womb

And hears in echoes all her days –

 

The signal drum

Leading her home.

Monday 19 April 2021

Letters to my unborn child - 40 weeks plus 4

 Dear child of mine, we are soon to meet! What a weird time this is just waiting for you to make your appearance. 

Your due date has been and gone - as has Independence Day which we were hoping you would redeem with a birth day. Our renovations are complete (hallelujah) and dad and I have been putting together your cot and changing table and getting everything ready for when we get to bring you home. 

I am currently tired and grumpy and quite frankly, have had quite enough of being pregnant thank you! But I also know that I should be treasuring this time when you are safe and warm inside me. This world is big and scary and I know it will hurt you sometimes. 

And then I remember that the world is also full of wonder - full of beautiful places and creatures; music; art; dance; books; sweet friendships and encounters with people who will change you forever. There is heartache but there is also such joy. There are ideas and people worth sacrificing everything you have for. And there is a lot of love to give and receive. 

I am scared of the labour to come but I know that it will be worth it for the meeting of you. I am praying for you every day. 

Much love, your mama.

Sunday 28 February 2021

Letters to my unborn child – 33 weeks

 


Well your mother has been remiss in keeping on top of these entries – not wholly out of keeping with her character it must be confessed. Since my last entry, FM has been released from prison – though not before she contracted Covid in that awful place. Mercifully she is recovering well and continues to speak up and out against injustice and oppression. Biden made it through inauguration so the world is officially rid of Trump’s leadership. Covid vaccines are being rolled out across the world- including right here in Zimbabwe where most healthcare workers have now received the first dose of a Chinese manufactured vaccine. Hopefully life will be able to return to some normality soon.

There are incredibly only 7 weeks of pregnancy left to go! I feel like surely my belly cannot get any bigger and yet I suppose it has to! Fortunately, apart from a spate of weird migraine auras, I’ve been feeling pretty good and have enjoyed this later stage of pregnancy.

Slowly we are getting ready for your arrival – nappies have been purchased, baby clothes unpacked. Next weekend we will have your baby shower where we will no doubt end up with more baby things than we will ever need. So many people love you and love your dad and I. We are blessed indeed.

Granny and Grandpa have also decided that our little rondavel needs a bit of extending. So your dad and I will be homeless for a few weeks – please don’t come early!

Today is your dad’s birthday – well sort of – it’s between today and tomorrow, our beloved leapling man. We’re celebrating in the Matobo hills. It is stunningly beautiful here among the rocks and trees. It has rained pretty much non stop since we arrived which is a bit of a shame but we’re making the most of it anyway. One day we’ll bring you here and show you this magnificent part of creation and debate its complex, messy history.

Stay warm and cosy in my belly!

Mother

Friday 15 January 2021

Letters to my unborn child - 27 weeks

 Yikes! It's almost the end of our second trimester. Having felt like this pregnancy has lasted forever, it's suddenly all speeding up and getting quite real! Yesterday, your dad booked us into the hospital (so Granny can stop worrying about you being born at home!).

While you're safe and cosy in my ever-expanding tummy, the world out here has become pretty scary. In the last 3 weeks, Covid-19 has hit Zimbabwe hard and we now know a frightening number of people who have the disease. We're back in a hard lockdown (though compliance has been patchy at best), so we're all working from home and trying to keep as safe as we can. How weird to think that one day, this bizarre period will be something you'll learn about in History. 

January has also been an interesting one in global politics. We stayed up till midnight the other night watching the Capitol being stormed by Trumpites - he's been impeached for the second time by the bye. There are some truly baffling conspiracy theories on the rise - really, dear unborn child, I pray more than anything that you are granted the gift of discernment - boy do you need wisdom to navigate this crazy world of ours! (but heck, I could be the nutcase after all and Trump and in two weeks time, I might be eating humble pie before a crowd of MAGA evangelicals - who knows!).

Our dear friend, and your revolutionary auntie, FM, was also arrested this week and has been remanded in prison. Grandpa is working extra hard to get her out as soon as possible. I keep thinking back to our one night in cells last year and the strange comfort that came from at least being there with friends. I hate thinking of her alone, having to be brave in the face of such cruel and ridiculous injustice. I know that this won't defeat her though. She is strong and courageous and her fierce hope in a better Zimbabwe will get her through this. 

I cannot tell you how inspired I am by the women of this country. We know a few good men, you and I (a lot of them are in our family!), but my goodness, the women! There's the young, feisty, constitution defender, and the slightly mad, older lady with faith like a mountain, who rescues the discarded and sick and sees miracles happen, and the women who start soup kitchens and just keep serving, and the writers and artists who use their voices to speak for the silenced and won't give up hope. Learn from your sisters and aunties and grandmothers little one. They have so much to teach you. 

Stay safe, stay woke.

Mother

P.S the rain is pretty incredible this year. It has been a reminder that God's grace continues to sustain even when all hope seems lost.

Monday 28 December 2020

Letters to my unborn child - 24 weeks

I am currently sitting on the verandah at our dear friends' house, gazing into green and feeling unusually zen. We've celebrated Christmas and today is my birthday eve. Tomorrow I turn 35 - an age I find hard to comprehend. Ah time - you certainly are a mystery. Next year, you'll be with us and our lives will have changed in ways we can't imagine. 

Christmas has held special meaning for me this year as I have thought about Mary and how she must have felt before and while her body birthed Jesus in an animal shed. Was she frightened? Or strangely at peace? Was her body sore and uncomfortable? Did she wonder if she'd imagined everything about her child's conception? Did anyone come to help her that night she laboured? Was she filled with awe and delight the moment she set her eyes on her baby son or did she feel like she held a tiny stranger in her arms? 

The Incarnation feels especially important this year in the midst of such global chaos and widespread grief. And not just God becoming flesh, experiencing humanity in all its rawness in Christ's lived out life - but being born of flesh - to a fully human woman - that seems critical too. Those nine months of pregnancy - the stretch marks and nausea and rollercoaster emotions - that was important. The groans and mess and exhaustion of labour - that was important too. It was important because Mary wasn't God. But from her pain and her confusion and her limited and mortal understanding of what was happening, came the long-awaited salvation of the world. Not in a dramatic, spectacular fashion (although the shepherds perhaps would beg to differ), but in a slow-moving, ordinary, messy story that spanned three decades of a mother learning her son. 

And somehow, the difficult waiting and the dark unknown-ness of the future that lies before me seems slightly more bearable. The word 'adventure,' derives from the Latin 'about to happen' and shares the same root, the 'advenire' - 'to arrive', with the word 'advent'. Pregnancy is an adventure - the perilous journey before the arrival of a life-change.

May the advent of the Christ child, born so human-ly, be our strength and encouragement in our adventure. 

Merry Christmas (season, not day).

Mother.